That Time on the Mission When I Embarrassed Myself.

I am, by nature, a pleaser. I have always been uncomfortable around conflict, and I tend to compensate by being extra polite to avoid conflict in any form. It’s a personality trait that was especially on display when I was a Mormon missionary in LA. In keeping with the Book of Mormon scripture, “He that…

Eternal Gender and the Plan of Salvation II

NPR put out a new video short called TransMormon about a girl named Eri Hayward. I met Eri back when I was a BYU student in 2008. I didn’t know her well, so it was nice to hear about her journey through this documentary. I think Eri’s story unveils some of the issues I mentioned…

On Sipping.

My husband didn’t grow up Mormon, and so his family is very different from mine. The first time I went to stay with them in Washington, I experienced coffee for the first time. I woke up early because I wasn’t used to the time change, and went into the kitchen for a cup of orange…

The Tree of Life

My dad found out I might be gay when I was fourteen and he caught me with some compromising images on the computer. Needless to say, that was a traumatic night for both of us. I was seated at the computer and he was standing behind me when an image popped onto the screen that…

FAQ When I Speak with PFLAG

For the past two years or so I have volunteered as a speaker for PFLAG. We go to schools, churches, and workplaces and share our stories to promote LGBTQ acceptance, conduct diversity/sensitivity training, and answer questions about being gay in Massachusetts. I usually tell my story about going through reparative therapy, accepting myself, and becoming…

A 6-year Flashback

Today is the 6-year anniversary of my first date with my husband, Michael. Back then I couldn’t imagine the life I live now. This photo was taken in my apartment at Brigham Young University during our first week together. It was just three months after I finished my mission in California. You can see my…