Animus

Unpacking the Vitriol Behind the 2004 and 2008 Gay Marriage Bans After the state of Utah made its defense of Amendment 3 (gay marriage ban) to the federal appeals court this month, the Utah Attorney General told the gay couples who are suing for the right to marry, “it’s not personal by any means.”1 I…

That Time on the Mission When I Embarrassed Myself.

I am, by nature, a pleaser. I have always been uncomfortable around conflict, and I tend to compensate by being extra polite to avoid conflict in any form. It’s a personality trait that was especially on display when I was a Mormon missionary in LA. In keeping with the Book of Mormon scripture, “He that…

The Tree of Life

My dad found out I might be gay when I was fourteen and he caught me with some compromising images on the computer. Needless to say, that was a traumatic night for both of us. I was seated at the computer and he was standing behind me when an image popped onto the screen that…

A 6-year Flashback

Today is the 6-year anniversary of my first date with my husband, Michael. Back then I couldn’t imagine the life I live now. This photo was taken in my apartment at Brigham Young University during our first week together. It was just three months after I finished my mission in California. You can see my…

A War Against a Mirror

I don’t know when my parents first taught me about sin and Satan’s role in tempting me to sin, but I know I was young. I was about five or six years old the first time I sinned. I was with my mom shopping at Bed Bath and Beyond. Being the incredibly gay boy that…