I hate the term “Same Sex Attractions.” “Same Gender Attractions” is even worse. Gayness is soooooo much more than attractions. I am much more than a person who is attracted to those of the same gender. And it is much more than my sex drive that craves men. The love that I feel towards men is emotional, social, mental, and physical. It is something that is deep and rounded, not something as shallow as so many assume and say.
Straight people never think of themselves as straight. They never think of their relationships as differently gendered. They simple are. They simply go on dates with people they like. They simply fall in love with the one who stands out. Why can’t I do the same?
I don’t think of myself as gay. I don’t think of my relationships as same gendered. I just am. And I’m just dating.
How many of you have actually had sex with someone of the same gender? No, you haven’t? But you’re still gay? Well I’m sure that you walk around craving gay sex all day, right? No, you don’t? Hmmmm. I just wish that I could help others to understand that homosexuality is not about sex. It’s so much more. Maybe we can find a term that will show the depth of what is at play here- a term that doesn’t imply some sort of sexual disorder. Better yet, maybe we can get to the point where we don’t need a term. Where we can just be.