Belonging

The End of Belonging Today is my anniversary; I can overshare if I want to. Last week I wrote a post during a dark moment that I intended to publish today titled The End of Belonging. In it I expressed how I felt 8 months after I discovered my husband was involved in a secret relationship…

On feeling safe

On Saturday I went on a date. Because I got married so young and separated so recently, I haven’t been on many dates since 2008 when I was a student at BYU in Utah just coming out of the closet. My date was a man my age who also married young and recently divorced, so we…

LDS Press Conference on Nondiscrimination Feels Like a Slap in the Face

Earlier today several key leaders of the LDS Church called a press conference to discuss religious freedom and nondiscrimination legislation for the LGBT community. I have to commend the Church generally for a tone and policy that is radically improved from even just 5 or 6 years ago when I was a student at BYU. But as a whole, I found their statements lacking and ultimately hypocritical.

Having experienced anti-gay bullying at the hands and mouths of LDS members, leaders, and official publications, statements implying they have always been against such persecution, feels more like a slap in the face than a sincere change of heart.

Animus

Unpacking the Vitriol Behind the 2004 and 2008 Gay Marriage Bans After the state of Utah made its defense of Amendment 3 (gay marriage ban) to the federal appeals court this month, the Utah Attorney General told the gay couples who are suing for the right to marry, “it’s not personal by any means.”1 I…

Conference Hopes

On Saturday morning my thirteen-year-old sister snap-chatted me a cute, if dorky, picture of her and my dad in Sunday best with goofy grins and the caption, “Going to General Conference.” It’s that time again. No matter how long it has been since I stopped practicing Mormonism, I can’t seem to miss conference. Between my family, my…

Happiness is.

A significant and oft-quoted axiom in the Book of Mormon is “wickedness never was happiness.” In context, the passage explains why sinners inherit the Kingdom of the Devil after they die and are resurrected, but the saying is more popularly applied to the present. “The way of the Lord is the way of happiness. Wickedness…

Winter Solstice

Shortly after Michael and I got married, we decided we would celebrate the solstices. The decision had very little to do with any New Age beliefs or anything like that, although I have long been interested in the cosmic and archetypal origins of modern holidays. It was more about starting something new. Our marriage was…